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I was so sick of people at work telling me about the inappropriate things I did over the weekend. Since I wasn’t going to change my behavior WHEN I drank, I had to change my life so I NEVER drank. At that moment, things started looking up. Happy Friday, Sisters! Keep it simple today.
We were raised to be good people. We knew right from wrong. But we didn’t make the most incredible choices after tossing a few back. As soon as we walked away for good from that toxic liquid in whatever flavor, we relearned how to be the sisters we were meant to be. And now that we’ve stopped all of the gossiping and judging and basically flailing (failing too at times), we’ve got the energy for all the good stuff the world has to offer. We don’t “miss out” on a thing now. We missed out for long enough bc when we were hungover we didn’t go anywhere we didn’t absolutely HAVE to. And never ever EVER did we do anything alcohol-free. It’s time to level up, Sisters. #keepitsimple .
So last night somebody asked me, “what’s the one thing that the most people relapse over? Break up? Death in the family? Sh*t day or week or month of work?” I told him the answer was none and all of those. There can always be a “reason” to drink. My answer was, “One of 2 things. Fear or ego”.
fomo is real for a lot of us and most events we attend likely serve alcohol. Why can you say no one night and yes the next? Only you know that. The ego part isn’t ego like “I am sooooo hot and cool and rad and 🔥”. Quite the opposite. This is our ego that worries about what people will think about them not drinking so it’s basically insecurity. I GET IT! However. If someone is going to judge me in a negative fashion for choosing what I put in my glass? Welp. Tata. Maybe they need to look into their own relationship with alcohol. Not my business, nor do I care. Stay in your lane, do the best you can, and hang with us.
Happy FRIDAY, sober family! Keep it simple today.
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We really can do anything and everything. If you can imagine it, you can do it! These sisters never run from a challenge and know that quitting alcohol is more than challenging. It’s also the best example of leveling up we’ve ever imagined. We left behind that as$$$$$hole alcohol and when we did???? We ended up leaving behind drama, gossip, judgement, and negativity. Do what makes YOU happy. Then watch that happiness spread and multiply. Happy Saturday, sober family!!! Keep it simple today. . . .
Have you ever tried to figure out how many seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, or years you spent on either drinking alcohol, prepping to drink alcohol, and disposing secretly of said alcohol? I could have written a thesis on something sciencey in the amount of time I spent on that bastard alcohol. The nights of partying weren’t so horrible always. But boy the mornings after were FAR from worth it. If someone doesn’t like that you’re not drinking give ‘em an hour. Once they’ve had “enough” they won’t care less about what’s in your glass. Time to rediscover you- the you before the alcohol or drug or sex or whatever took over. I bet we’ll love you as is. Happy Thursday, sober family! Keep it simple today. . . .
New friends have never seen me sloppy drunk. Old friends are used to the “new” me. It’s not expected of me to be “that girl” anymore. As in omg that girl just faceplanted or holy sh*t that girl is being escorted out because she’s so wasted. It’s a fabulous thing but because it’s not what I was used to it can be uncomfortable. You’d think the uncomfortable feelings would come from the shame of what I did. Well. At least I wasn’t conscious while doing it. Sometimes it’s easier to numb, at least that way you don’t have to deal at that moment. I do know one thing for sure though. I’d rather be present for my feelings; good, bad, and oh so ugly. Happy Tuesday, sober family! Keep it simple today. . . .
Last night I went to a concert a few hours away. It didn’t slip my mind that when I was getting ready I didn’t have to keep getting a refill of my alcoholic pre-game beverage of choice. I didn’t have to do all of the prepping and planning that goes along with drinking; do I have enough for the ride, do I have a stash no one else knows about, how can I be as wasted as possible before going in? Oh and how will I pay for the 12.00 beers there? Walking in last night we saw a woman who was so sh*tfaced she faceplanted on the cement. Her friends helping her looked annoyed and kind of like, “here she goes again, who’s babysitting this time?” That was me for a few years (or decades 😬). Glad it’s not anymore. Plus it was about a million degrees out and if I were drinking I’d more than likely be getting an IV drip today bc I KNOW I wouldn’t have been drinking water too. I woke up fresh as a daisy 🌼 Happy Saturday, sober family! Keep it simple today. . . .
Have you ever noticed the way that alcohol mandates your life? I only noticed it after I quit drinking. The phone calls and texts before an event – who’s driving (not me!!!!), what are we drinking, do we have enough? Oh no someone got hurt but no one can drive! Oh no I sent a text I shouldn’t have bc alcohol said to. Oh no where did I wake up, who’s that guy in the bed, and what are these bruises?! Not my best moments so when I stopped being Alcohol’s puppet life got a lot better. Less stress, anxiety, and shame. Happpppppy FRIDAY, sober family! Keep it simple today. . . .
I’ll never ever forget the time that I heard a friend tell another “Dude. Sometimes you just have to ride it out.” In that particular instance, he was talking about a “dry-good” (aka – drug) because he knew that the only thing that would make that situation better was time. Triggers come and go. Feelings and emotions do too. If you wait long enough. Some of us need to move a muscle to change a thought. If I’ve only learned one thing for certain in life it’s that nothing is certain. Everyone and everything changes. Sometimes we just need to ride it out to get to it. Try to enjoy it if you can and keep it simple today. . . .
I used to wonder what ole Lionel Richie meant by easy like a Sunday morning. I mean, I get it but Sunday mornings used to be horrific. Our bestie @sobergirl_glo felt the same way. Sundays for me were to wake up in a panic not knowing who was going to be pissed at me and trying to piece my night together. That’s a lot of stress and dis- EASE that I can’t be bothered with anymore. Happy Sunday, sober family! Keep it simple today. . . . .