I just had a backyard meeting with a bunch of sober women, most of whom I’ve known for years. We only even know each other because we all sought out sober support.
My friends have helped me more than they’ll ever know. It’s different, these relationships. There’s a shared bond before we even get to know details about our lives. These are the women I can talk to without a filter. They show me how to be honest, vulnerable, strong, compassionate, helpful, and human. They have seen me in all states. Crying my eyes out. Laughing my head off. Demoralized. Hopeful. Stressed and anxious. Content. And sometimes I don’t even know what I am and how I feel, and it never matters.
I will always, always cherish the people who are there for me. I don’t want to drink anymore, but I’ll never get to stop working on the issues that made me want to drink.
I know for me that isolating can lead to bad choices. So I make sure I stay connected. There are times I have to be alone, but I need to at least send out some texts then. Something.
I try not to take my friends for granted.
If you stopped drinking, or want to, and don’t have in person sober friends, we’re so glad you’re here. We’re making true friends here too. There’s always, always room for one more.
You. Are. Not. Alone.