I cannot stand it when someone gives me an excuse. It’s one of the things that makes me see red. I usually know when it’s a bullshit excuse and wonder how dumb do they think I am? Then I think of something I’ve heard a lot in recovery. “If you spot it, you got it”…meaning that when something drives me crazy it often means that I’ve done the same exact thing and it’s something I need to work on in myself.
I used to have an excuse for everything. If I didn’t want to go somewhere so I could drink the way I wanted to I’d lie. When I was too sick to show up to work I’d lie. When I blew off plans for an activity with the kids I’d lie. The lies were hard to keep up with. I had an excuse for everything. The saddest thing about this is that I thought people believed me. They knew I was full of it. They called me out or didn’t … they got to the point where they didn’t call me at all. I always had excuses ready for the cops, my boss, and my family. What an exhausting existence. Now I don’t need the tacky excuses as long as I stay sober. Happy Wednesday, sober family! Keep it simple today!